“Did u or DO u have ever felt the need of loved one in your life? “

Hi folks,

M back again with a topic that could really make you think. I dont know if this article has been discussed in any newspaper or any magazine , but i have this topic going around my fountain head since a long time,.

Everybody comes across this question, one day or other. Here by the term loved one, i mean boyfriend or girfriend or fiance. M not counting friends, parents or siblings. The reason is these people are always part of out defined frame of life..!! So chums are out

Bring ups or parents.. no matter what, are always there to love and support ya..!


But, at one stage you are standing with your friends, parents around...but still u have kept a small space for someone special. Even though the space might be low or not yet cleared on boundaries, that special place is for someone special , whom you would called the "Loved one".


I'm still baffled, do we or do we not require someone special to desparately come in your life.. or we can live without it.. To take my point of view, i feel and def. feel that i wont mind to have a special someone in my life.. the one with whom i can share my feelings... my happiness my sadness.. tell her something, which i could.. 100% feel .. a trust worthy person..! a person who will never stabb my back , by letting ppl know about some real personal stuff i have told.


But at one point i feel really happy, after watching many rel`nships that .. it might be really gr8 to be single.. Honestly, if have everything for your partner except for love, then the rel`nships def. has a bad ending.. which may result in nothing but depression and utter frustration..

To this point supports my good old buddy
here's what Sameer has to say ...

"You know these days every time I write or say something related to this issue I tend to get bugged up myself. So just want to share the same pakau feeling with all of you.

So here goes: I seriously seriously do not feel the need to have a special someone in my life. Confused…….Let me explain! (Munnabhai style) J

I am single and believe me I am single by choice. It’s not a matter of failing to get a girlfriend or that I am afraid of commitment and all that stuff. It’s just that I hate to see a person who is emotionally dependent upon someone. I have met at least 10/12 couples or pairs and to be honest have often seen that instead of trust, love and maturity, these people carry immense amount of insecurity, only. Believe me if you have all the three feelings for your “love”, no one in this world will ever be unhappy in a relationship. Insecurity stems from the fear of losing the person to someone else. And if you are misunderstanding it as love then be sure that you are not in love with that person but are in love with that relationship only. You don’t need that particular person but you need someone and that someone could be anyone. Bass uss naye insaan ko time dena baki hai, and u are back in you “relationship”. That’s the reason why, in a rebound state after any relationship ends, people fall for someone new…instantaneously. This might sound harsh but this is a regular scenario. Why do you need anyone special in this world if you have the capability to hold on to friends & family members! And if you are not capable of this, then I feel the problem isn’t with the world. It’s inside you. Friends will never have time if you haven’t been there when they needed you…even if it is for trivial issues.


So People, Love is a choice to accept a gift. If you have the maturity, only then be in a relationship. Else…choice is yours!


Well sam, i def. agree with what you say.. But i have one question.. at one point in life.. even though you hve friends around... u need that someone special who will help you to support your feeling.. pamper you in your own way.. and show you that there's some one in this world who really cares for you.

To this feeling my friend kirti has to say this ...

here goes kirti..
Yes..definitely yes…. There are basically two aspects of this need………
One is ..you feel a need to of SOMEONe Special coz you just wana have some special moments in your life … you need to share your feelings (even any foolish ) without any hesitance……
you need coz you feel that
you are special and you are precious to someone….n that gives u more confidence…
the feel good factor!!!!
You need coz sometime wen u r siting alone n think abt the whole world around you…
you feel that still there is some empty space in you….which can only be filled by that special someone…

The other aspect of y do you feel the need is….

In todays world …almost everyone around you is emotionally involved in someone….

So coz of that no one has that much time n attention to give it to u….coz of their own personal commitments…
For eg….In XXX place..amongst all the gals who r my frens everyone is havin BFso … when I need to share my thoughts…at any pt of tim bt none of my fren can be free …..just coz of their personal commitments… So finally I have to have my special someone to fulill all my emotional…psychological needs…….. The only things is even he should reciprocate same feelings towards me………


Well, few need special someone to share and fulfill all emotional and psychological needs..


To this point my friend rucha puts a different direction to think over.. here rucha

"First of all I am very bad in expressing my views in words .....still what I can think of is in every ones life few relationships plays important role .... at every stage of life

Like PARENTSSIBLINGS,FRIENDS...
Most of us get the best treatment from our parents, Elder /younger bro or sis ....a proper love and care ....where you actually find yourself pampered But when we actually start interacting with people of our same age ....we get attracted .... we think alike upto certain extent ... here comes in our life Role of a friend .... this is the entry of diffrent group of people in our life other than family members... further comes many such friends depending upon our compatibility with them .... but by this time when we actually being called as grown up ..we are in need of a friend who can care for us ... little bit Possessive for us ... who may worry if we are feeling lonely ... :) or when we are in trouble ... and we suddenly starts thinking that we are alone and we actually start searching for that person ( I think so ) & sPECIAL FRIEND which is actually a boy friend for a girl and GirlFriend for a boy ... ' comes into our life ..... I dont say 2 girls or boys could not be good friends but I agree with the fact oppsite attracts.. its all upto us how despirately we want some one in our life ..... "



Here one more view on the topic by one my very close friend siddhi..!
Siddhi says..
Hummmm welll, the topic is quite interesting
Many views to share with u

The answer is off course “YES”

At some point of time in life we really feel like having someone special in our life that is truly yours or sometimes can say “totally yours”
The “one” is there for you in each n every moment in life. Let it b d most happiest moment in life or let it b d worst……
The “one” with whom u r most comfortable….
The “one” with whom u would love to be most of the time…..
The “one” with whom u like to share all of ur things, ur thoughts, ur dreams in your life on both emotional as well as practical grounds…..
The “one” for whom ur simplest thing is also most important n vice-versa……
The “one” whom u trust d most n have confidence that this one will never break this trust without any special reason…….
The “one” who accepts you what you are without trying to change urself, off course without a few exceptions……
The “one” who will realize me that I m a girl (hope u both understand what I want to say)…....


The “one” who is perfectly PARTNER of your entire life………


Guys.. i really think, that books mars vs venus.. is somewhat right.? Maritians are not expressive people, where as the venus females are..?

So does that mean, that girls need more emotional support than boys and thatz the reason they hunt for some more strong support or someone to fill that empty special place.?

i think no..!! I have seen headstrong girls and much more carreer minded, who have hardly time to think about all this..


OR have meet girls, who are ready to marry a guy, their parents would suggest, without ever giving a thought over this special somoeone..

But i have meet some friends you are desparado in need to get into a rel`nships..


Finally to my view, i would say that there's is def. a need for a special someone.. But even if u have that specialsomeone in your life.. coming or on his way.. you need the basic thing is "Maturity" to handle it... Also, patience is the virtue , which is not to be neglected in this case.


so guys and gals...keep your eyes, ears and all sense to find out a special someone to fit into the special someone right place..



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